Our primary caregiver(s), biological or otherwise, are instrumental in our sense of safety, security, and stability. We have no choice but to adapt our behaviors and beliefs in childhood to our caregiver(s) because without them we would not survive. Evolutionarily speaking, being wired this way allows us to survive. We take these behaviors and beliefs with us into adulthood, oftentimes unaware they no longer serve our needs in a necessary way. We may know logically we are no longer helpless without our caregiver(s), but our body and our emotions do not “know” things have changed. These beliefs and behaviors we carry into adulthood can be challenging and frustrating to notice, understand, accept, and adjust. They can cause conflict and stress in and between family members.